Important facts to be a happy partner in a married life
Changing trends
The time changes with every passing day and so change the traditions, with every moment of time. What was considered good yesterday is no more applicable today. Even the married couples are not the same anymore but they too have changed with time. The women, who were considered as inferior in yesteryear, have come to the fore to stand equally with their male counterparts. In fact, happy husband as well wife makes a complete happy family unlike previous times when happiness of woman was not taken into account. Although it does not mean that the happiness are limited in today’s context only but it was always the same, however the couple are taking more care to keep their married life pleasant by understanding each other knowing their desires in a better way. They know it well that running a family is not one-way traffic. Moreover, if they keep trying it that way, collision is the only possible result that comes in form of a separation or gloomy domestic atmosphere.
Girls have changed more than boys
That’s right, women have changed more than men have, for a simple reason, and the girls are better educated today. Girls do not leg behind in any field and they are actively participating in matters where their marriages are concerned. They do not hesitate to discuss about their own marriage as they used to do until a couple of years before. It is necessary for their parents to know about the choice of their daughters. Most girls prefer to marry a boy having an attractive personality, good looking and perfect sex appeal. As most girls have a say in selection of their ‘would be husband’, they prefer to see something extra special in them. You know something like ‘out of the world’ that could attract them at the first glance.
Girls want to see something extra in their husband to be and they certainly do not look at them with their parents’ eyes that see at the boys to judge them for their other qualities, like their mental and educational standards. Of course, mental, financial and family background of the boys comes into play when girls approve their first glance. But the fact remains that high education, big money and all other facts count after the appearance of the boy gets the nod of the girl. The boy should be handsome having other qualities to support him in getting approval of the girl.
Girls have no hesitation to talk about the hobbies of the boys because that is one of the important factors that goes a long way in happy married life. And you should be ready to face a few questions about dress sense and color combinations as the girls have become very conscious about matters, which affect their future married life. The choice of colors of course is an important factor that makes them dull or bright. There is another factor related to colors because choice of colors shows the real personality of a person. A boy should be well mannered and outgoing because girls would never want to chose a boy who is introvert or shy type. Girls want a ‘man’ for a husband
Money and manners matter
Yes, money is one of the most important factors as most girls dream about a rich lifestyle of married life. The money plays a very important role when it comes to choose a future bridegroom. Girls keep a long list ready even before the marriage with all modern facilities included in that. No girl wants to marry a boy who does not earn good money because that would not fulfill her dreams. The boy should not only be moneyed one but he should be a perfect man knowing fully well how to behave. Girls will not fall for the boys who have bad habits. Very few girls would accept a boy with smoking, tobacco chewing, drinking or any other bad addictions. Even the smartest and good-looking boys will not get the nod of a good girl if she knows that the boy has any bad habits. For instance, a boy with yellow teeth, which is indicative of smoking, in all probabilities will be rejected.
Girls are good judge
Careless and manners less boys stand no chance as the girls can pick them easily by their mannerism. Most girls with good mental standard, boldness, intelligence quotient, cleverness, are talkative can judge their future husbands. And there should be no doubt that such girls make very good wives who can transform an average husband otherwise into a very successful husband. A girl who knows the value good married life can solve very complicated issues without making them point of big disputes to keep their married life intact.
After the marriage
Newly married couples find themselves in a strange position especially when they have to change their lifestyle according to each other. Most people find it tough to adjust with suddenly changed situations but here is the secret of a happy married life. A small change here or there in ones timetable or maybe in dresses one wears or food habits goes a long way. Almost every couple has to make few changes in them to adjust their partner after the marriage. There is nothing like big or so bad of a habit that one cannot change for a happy married life. Have a look at some of the common points that can prove helpful-
1- If we talk about unmarried life, we all are the same, careless, coming back home at odd hours, getting up late, staying in office or spending time with friends gossiping. But, one has to change his habits after marriage if he or she has to keep their partner happy. And this is more so if both the partners are working. Unfortunately, it is truer in case of a woman in a combined family, as we are still living in the man’s world in our country although situation is getting better by the day. There is no denial however, that it is still the duty of a woman to look after the needs of her in-laws despite her being busier in her workplace than her husband. Here comes the role of a husband to help and cooperate with his wife to reduce her workload to give her some breathing space by helping her in household jobs that he can handle easily.
2- Everyone, including boys and girls live a carefree life before marriage. They can afford to keep matters waiting as long as they can – example – if a mum told her daughter to take the responsibility of cleaning job, she can postpone it for a day or two but after marriage especially in a combined family this attitude doesn’t work. Marriage changes a girl more than a boy, perhaps the reasons are same- our traditions but if the husband is caring and looking for a happy future for his married life, he will have to come forward and help her finish the job. That will keep most matters within reasonable limits. None of the partners can afford a careless attitude that will only make situation worse in a married life and can even lead to worst, the divorce in some cases. So, the couples who are not careful and find excuses to avoid helping each other must understand that they are marching toward an unhappy married life with nothing to rejoice about.
3- In most households, a new bride is soon burdened with the household responsibilities, therefore if a girl prepares herself for the same before marriage. And in case of couple is living separately, it is better the boy shares the work with her otherwise if both of them are not prepared to take responsibilities or ignore the work heir problems nothing but increase. Once they face the realities of life, they feel as if their own lifestyle, the liberty, which they were used to before marriage, is gone. In such cases, they need to take every step that will help each other that is one important condition for a happy married life. They will have to keep in their mind that they cannot afford to do anything that will spoil the mood of their partner. The changes, however hard one partner finds to adjust will make your married life happy and worth living.
4- I think one of the most important aspects of married life is small talks, the humor and the small loving gestures those are missed so badly in a married life. Reasons, the same, the tensions of life that couple feels once the initial days of honeymooning are over and the life is back to normal routine. Most of the couples did not expect it or imagined that this was in store for them in the name of married life. Here the role of those loving gestures begins that change the experience to pleasant one. A short ‘Love you’ changes the whole complexion of gloomy day to a very romantic evening. Don’t tell me you are no good at such filmy type behavior because that is not as tough as you thought it is. Such small things help keep your life full of happiness and the romance in your life remains forever.
You are made for each other
The couple should know it that they are made for each other because the feeling of selfless and unconditional love is the only condition for a wonderful married life. Conditions in a marriage will turn it into a business and no such relations will last for long duration. Love is not a show business but it comes from inside. Opportunism in married life is the last thing desired in between the spouses. If there is no trust in between the partners, the marriage is not going to last for long period. If a couple does not have full faith in each other, they are least likely to enjoy their married life. Even the smallest of incidents change the situation, therefore keeping them in mind make a big difference. If you are looking for a happy married life remember that all your joys are sorrows are common. You have to take the responsibility to share both of these to be a true partner. True love increases with the time, the increasing age helps it grow against the common belief that love decreases with the age. The fact is one can find a true lover in their partners at the age when sexual relations have no meanings. Love is all about your inner feelings, your dedication toward your partner where physical values have no meaning. These requirements only matter in the initial stages when one does not know their partners fully well.
And the most important factor of married life
The most complicated issue of a newly married couple is their sexual behavior. They both being inexperienced at the beginning of married life find certain problems due to natural shyness which is part of our culture and fail in initial stages. They must understand the complicacies and their solution in a natural and transparent way because the sexual relations are the basic needs and almost essence of life, they will not experience the full satisfaction of happily married life. There are different reasons for not being successful in sexual acts. Some of these are –
With increasing participation of women in every field, that is almost equal to men in jobs, the chances of affairs, which might convert into sexual relations in some cases is almost normal. But the men who still think in orthodox ways or care about old ethics do not succeed making such premarital relations. Such people while not succeeding think that they are impotent and fail when married and try this with their wives. The other reason could be being overly shy. He only solution is to take the shyness part out of the husband-wife relations and make it a pleasing experience. This is only possible when both the partners take the initiative to understand each other’s feelings and keep atmosphere lovely and lively. Communication is the best tool in making a married life happy- Keep appreciating each other with lovely phrases to keep your married life blossoming like a sweet smelling bunch of roses.
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