Your Marriage is important - Save it with your efforts
To be a happy couple
The world is changing too fast beyond our expectation and we are facing too many misunderstanding in between married couples, which are fast becoming cause of break up in a country like ours where these things were rare not long before. There are couples who find it a solution to live separately and none of them feels that they are on the wrong end. However, that is no solution but beginning of a bigger problem because marriage is in fact name of understanding and different adjustments. If partners have no understanding then there are no chances of keeping the marriage going. There are ways to keep conflicts away with little bit of effort and increasing the understanding level. Have a look at some of the points those may bring back happiness to your married life.
Never stop communication
Decreasing communication is sure sign of a break up therefore this is mandatory to keep communicating. You might be too busy in your activities but make it a point to find time to talk to your partner on regular basis. You may find some of the topics boring but you shall have to find some subjects of mutual interest to keep your relation going. You can discuss about your parents, places you visited in past and your mutual friends to keep the dialogue alive.
Keep respect intact
You are bound to each other for a lifetime and you have to keep your words even if you have no interest left in each other but this does not mean that you should stop respecting each other. Respecting each other’s decision and understanding feelings would certainly help restore your lost relations.
Adjustments are must
Yes, even if you think that making adjustments may adversely affect your self-respect or it is sign of weakness but this is not so. You shall have to make some adjustments, as these are mandatory conditions of keeping the relations going. There is no need to make adjustments on every point but only when it’s must and you think that not bowing to the situation may worsen matters beyond repair. Then your partner too feels the same and some of it comes from other side. The whole thing is that you two must to the conclusion that makes you both happy and your self-respect intact, that makes partnership a happy one.
Financial matters
A happy couple shares every thing with each other including matters related to money and assets and more so if both are working. In a relationship where you need to share, your accounts with partner and even can help each other in time of crises and the best strategy is to stay neutral how other spends his or her money unless your advice is not asked for. You only have to keep in mind that you both share every thing that you two have and would be helpful in case of a crisis. This gives an immense feeling of security to your partner.
If you are a working woman and in combined family
This is a bit of tricky situation because here you have to play many roles and remain in good books of your in-laws. You know every one likes the money part from your job but that is almost all; you shall have to struggle a lot to find time for yourself. You shall have to find your own space in a very crowded work schedule, which is not possible without a perfect understanding with your partner and his backup. The best strategy for you is to keep gifting your, in-laws try to keep them in good mood and help them in house chores as much your time permits you. Respect is one big factor that alone can keep them in good stead. What I mean to say is that this is your life, which you want to live happily and you should do it whatever the way you can do it. This not the old age any more but modern, where you can invent new ways according to your own circumstances. You only have to see to it that you do not want an unnecessary situation where relations get sour.
Keep you partnership happy and romantic
This is most important part of this story because the basic topic is to keep your partnership happy. Years do not count in a happy married life but the emphasis is on how you support each other and enjoy your married life. The best way to keep your life stay as lovely and romantic as it was in the beginning is to respect each other’s desires rather know them well before they express it. Keep your memories intact and keep refreshing them time and again. Take time to go out and enjoy your weekends even going out for longer duration should help a lot. You should remind each other that your partnership has still the same fragrance. Have some quality time together for yourself, that should make you forget the problems of life and you can start allover again while you come back spending your timeout.
Breathing space is must
However, whatever you do but take care of breathing space for your partner as well, because too much of every thing is bad, he or she needs some time for his or her own self. If any of the partners would not allow the other one to work on his or her hobbies that may create problems. This is better to involve your partner in your own hobbies or let them create or involve in their own because some times a little bit distance does magic on a relationship. You can allow your partner to watch his/her own TV programs without making sarcastic comments, or read books of own choice without passing comments on the quality of the book or writer’s standard after all your partner knows what he or she is up to. Let him or her spend some time with friends every week so that they can keep their own friendship going and enjoying their own way and mind you can participate but only if your partner insists for that, do not try to be an uninvited guest. Let them have fun that will make your partner happy and full of life.
The conclusion
Most couples become dull after marriage as the time passes by or feel bored with monotonous activities, may be lack of understanding crates unhappy situations between them and to share a secret with you some times too much of nearness also makes the matter complicated. Therefore, there is lot of research work needed to maintain good and lovely relations in between the couples and you should keep in mind that there is no fixed formula, which works on each couple. Every couple has to handle the situation as per their own specific needs those vary and depend on mental, education, financial, family background, upbringing etc.
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